On the seventh day, when the heart of the king was merry with wine, he commanded the seven chamberlains that served him to bring Vashti the Queen before the king with the royal crown, to shew the people and the princes her beauty: for she was fair to look on. But the queen refused to come at the kings command and he he was very wroth. ~Esther 1:11-12(abridged)
Really? what a slap in the face. So your husband permits you to throw a big bash for you and your girls, he bares no expense; you go into the treasure chest to pick out the finest jewelry. Your hair and makeup is undoubtedly flawless and you’re scented with the most expensive oils, and perfumes. All this done at your man’s expense (the king).
After the queen basked in her own light for 7 days the king wants to show her off. He’s enamored by her – totally in love. He didn’t command for her party to cease, didn’t command for the drinks and food to end. All he requested was for her presence. And she said “NO”. Anytime a man wants to show off his wife her answer should be “yes dear”why? Because that’s one of many ways he is saying “honey, I think you’re really awesome and I’m so glad you’re mine” Too bad she missed How to be a Good Wife 101. She refused the very person who covered her, who had her back, who fed her.